r/HEM_NSFW Community Rules

User Responsibility

You are required to read, understand, and follow all subreddit rules before posting or commenting. Claiming ignorance of the rules will not be accepted as an excuse. It is your responsibility to stay informed of the current rules at all times. This applies to every member without exception.

All users must follow Reddit’s Content Policy and Terms of Service at all times. This includes being 18 or older, not posting illegal content, and not using Reddit to facilitate real-world transactions. Access to r/HEM_NSFW is a privilege that depends on following sitewide rules.

Reddit Content Policy: Reddit Content Policy

This community strictly protects the anonymity and safety of everyone involved. Do not share, request, or hint at personally identifiable information.

• Do not post real names, phone numbers, addresses, workplaces, or any details that could identify someone.
• Do not show faces, license plates, distinctive marks, or recognizable locations. Blur or crop as needed.
• Do not post screenshots, links, watermarks, QR codes, or ad text that can be traced back to a person or location.
• Do not ask who someone is or try to confirm identities using outside sites.

Violations will be removed immediately. Serious or repeated violations may result in permanent bans.

All content must reflect clear, mutual, and voluntary consent between adults. We remove anything that suggests coercion, pressure, or non-consensual behavior.

• Everyone discussed or shown must be legal adults.
• Do not post content involving coercion, manipulation, intoxication, or situations where someone could not freely consent.
• Do not joke about abuse, stealthing, or boundary violations.
• Discussion must show respect for the other person’s right to say no at any time.
• Do not promote or instruct recording without clear consent.

Violations may result in immediate removal and permanent bans.

This rule follows Reddit Rule 7, which prohibits the use of Reddit to solicit or facilitate in-person paid sexual services.

r/HEM_NSFW permits discussion of personal visits, including payment for the house fee and tipping. However, specific tip amounts should not be stated when sexual services occurred during the session. The goal is to allow members to share their experiences while avoiding content that documents or encourages transactions for sexual services.

Allowed:

• Stating the house fee paid for the session.
• Stating a specific tip amount only when the session was massage-only and involved no sexual services.
• General statements that a tip was left, without specifying an amount when sexual activity occurred.

Examples of allowed statements:

• The house fee was $80.
• Tipped $20 after a massage-only session.
• Tipped at the end of the session.

Not Allowed:

• Stating a specific tip amount when any sexual service took place during the visit.
• Connecting any payment or tip to a specific sexual act or service.
• Using language that implies payment was exchanged for sexual activity.

Examples of statements that are not allowed:

• Tipped $XX at the end of the session (when sexual activity occurred).
• Tipped for the happy ending.
• Paid extra for full service.
• She gave me an HJ and I tipped $XX.

Any post or comment that violates this rule will be removed, and the user will receive a 28-day ban. No warnings will be issued.

r/HEM_NSFW is for discussion and education only. You may not use this subreddit to solicit services, advertise, promote yourself or others, or drive traffic off Reddit.

Not allowed:

• Asking for services, leads, referrals, or recommendations.
• Offering services or implying availability.
• Promoting businesses, paid content, or platforms.
• Posting or referencing off-platform links, usernames, QR codes, or contact methods.
• Using phrases like “message me,” “check my bio,” or similar.
• Asking indirect questions meant to gather leads.

Website and platform discussion is allowed in general terms. You may mention the names of research sites (such as Bedpage, AdultLook, or AMPReviews) when sharing how you found or verified information.

You may not post any links to external sites. This includes both main platform homepages and specific ads or listings. For more detail, see the Website Discussion Guidelines page.

Providers may participate in discussion but may not advertise or solicit. Violations may result in removal or permanent bans.

This rule follows Reddit Rule 7, which prohibits using Reddit to solicit or facilitate in-person paid sexual services. Requesting the location of erotic massage parlors or businesses that provide sexual services is considered facilitation and is not allowed.

Any post or comment requesting locations will be removed, and the user will receive a 28-day ban. No warnings will be issued.

All media submissions (photos and videos) must follow the full standards detailed here:

Media Submission Rules

Submissions that do not meet these standards will be removed. Serious or repeated violations may result in bans.

The following types of content are not allowed:

Rubmaps content:

• Do not request, share, quote, or repost anything from Rubmaps. You may mention the site generally but not use it as a source for specific information.

Medical or STD questions:

• Do not ask for medical advice, diagnosis, risk estimates, or post health-related questions or images.

Law enforcement and bust content:

• No posts about raids, arrests, shutdowns, mugshots, or law enforcement actions.

Influencer and surveillance content:

• No TikToks, YouTube videos, Instagram clips, or surveillance-style material about spas or providers.

Memes and low-effort posts:

• No memes, reaction images, or joke posts.

Violations will be removed. Repeated violations may result in bans.

Keep discussion respectful, on topic, and useful.

• Write clearly with short paragraphs and basic punctuation. Add context and detail.
• Do your homework. Check existing threads and the FAQ before posting. Do not repost the same topic.
• Do not insult, troll, threaten, or derail threads with drama.
• Respond respectfully to disagreements or move on.

Low-effort, repetitive, or disruptive posts may be removed. Moderators may act to protect member safety, privacy, and discussion quality even when content does not match a specific rule. Participation here is a privilege. The community comes first.